Friday, March 7, 2008

Men's Hair Care Unveiled

Until recently, men's hair care has only occupied a small part of the beauty industry. Now, with the growing acceptance of men all over the world, men's grooming has started to take off. Though for men, hair care products are limited to few at the local drugstore. Many people still think that "macho men" don't make a fuss about their hair.

However, many men are starting to realize that grooming doesn't make you less of a man, but makes you more attractive and stand out to the opposite sex. Metrosexuals are an example of this; take for example Beckham, a metrosexual with a hot wife and many female fans. Men have started to take care of their appearance, this includes, mens hair care.

The face in general is the most important part when it comes to male grooming. Now there are hundreds of men's hair styles and men who want the hair styles of famous male celebrities. Men have always greased there hair in the past, or applied large amounts of hair gel to get the perfect style. But we never really focused on what type of hair gel or pomade are we using? What about men's natural hair care? Mens hair loss tips? Bald head care? There are many questions, but where are the answers?

There are few resources for men online, but many are pioneering into this subject, helping other men get the best hair care he deserves. Online resources are important, because many men won't go to their friends for hair tips; it's not the usual talk during the football game. Getting hair care information for men online makes it easier for guys to get the advice and products they need and start looking even better.

For more information visit our site on Men's Hair Care

It's All About Us - Running Your Own Personal Gay Relationship Pow-Wow


Lets face it--life can be pretty darn hectic sometimes! Juggling all those commitments and trying to balance the roles and responsibilities you have can be quite challenging, and the one area of your life that can take the biggest hit is your relationship. It can be so easy to take your partner for granted as you try to tackle all those work demands, return your friends phone calls, and meet those family obligations. If you let it, your relationship can begin to lose its sense of priority, especially if you and your partner have gotten into a comfortable groove in the way you relate and function as a couple. The obvious consequence to this is a weakening of connection, potential decreased intimacy, emotional distance, and resentment over unmet needs.

All relationships, no matter how good, require consistent feeding. You must constantly nurture them, attend to them, and ensure that they remain healthy and strong. This is especially so because relationships, and the individuals who comprise them, are always changing with the passage of time. To not grow with the changes can result in a breakdown with inevitable conflict and sometimes demise.

Im a big advocate for doing periodic check-ins with your significant other to make sure the relationship is progressing in a mutually-satisfying direction. Gay men (actually men in general!) typically tend to favor problem-solving and action over communication. This thereby creates the potential for huge rifts to occur in their relationships because of the lack of dialogue to ensure they and their partners are on the same page with things that matter most. This article will describe one strategy that can promote you and your partners focus on your relationship; this technique can help you avoid getting distracted by other forces in your life and remind you to communicate and tend to the needs of your relationship to keep feeding its successful growth.

The Relationship Pow-Wow

Pow-Wow is a Native-American term that means a gathering or an important meeting. If you and your partner dont discuss the business and emotional aspects of your relationship on a regular basis, or if you find that your couple time is in competition with all the other life tasks and roles that must be fulfilled, then your relationship is likely in jeopardy without intervention. These things cannot be glossed over! The Relationship Pow-Wow might be just what the doctor ordered to get you guys back on track!

This technique is comparable to what therapists propose to families who need a more structured format for spending more quality time together, communicating about needs and feelings, and engaging in collaborative decision-making. Thats exactly what youll be doing with your partner; itll just be one-on-one!

Its actually a very simple concept. Basically, the two of you will come up with a mutually-agreeable time to meet to discuss how things are going in your relationship. This will become a regular and predictable part of your relationship and is intended to be a safe place for the two of you to air your thoughts, feelings, and resolve differences. The length and frequency of the meetings is individualized per couple; if your relationship seems to be running along smoothly, perhaps once per month is sufficient. If you and your partner are going through some transitions, adjustments, or crises, you might want to increase the frequency to weekly or every few days. You will tailor your Pow-Pow to the unique needs of your relationship.

Meeting Guidelines

* Meet at the same place and at the same time. This will help develop a ritual for your relationship where it will decrease the chances youll forget about it. If need be, write it down in your scheduling book. Minimize distractions and really use this time to honor each other and what youve built together.

* Both you and your partner will have equal floor time to speak your mind. You will each be the listener and the speaker, making sure not to interrupt until the speaker is finished. Be respectful of each others expressed opinions and beliefs and make a rule to not use vulgarities or put each other down. Keep the complaining out! State your needs and feelings directly and assertively and ask for what you want.

* If the climate of your meeting becomes tense or has a flavor of being unproductive, call a Time-Out to defuse any potential for misdirected anger. The Pow-Wow will not work if it becomes a battle-ground. Make sure you schedule another time to complete the meeting if you need to postpone it to allow some time to regain composure.

* The meeting will require you to use good communication, conflict negotiation, and problem-solving skills. If youre not well-versed in these, study up on active listening, I messages, brainstorming, or enlist the services of a coach or couples counselor to help you fine-tune these critical skills.

* Keep a notebook handy at your meeting and journal or keep minutes of what was discussed. You can always refer to this at the beginning of each meeting to track your progress on stated goals and also helps with accountability and remembering what was discussed.

* Strive toward win/win solutions. As two men socialized for competitiveness in the same relationship, keep the wrestling matches out! Remember that youre on the same team, you dont always have to agree on everything, and negotiate for the benefit of the relationship itself, not one particular individual.

Running A Pow-Wow

Step 1: One partner will begin the meeting by sharing his perception of how the week went as it pertains to the partnership. What went well in the relationship? What didnt go so well? What needs were met and unmet?

Step 2: The other partner will repeat back what he heard his partner say, empathizing with and validating the message. He will then share his perceptions and the other partner will then mirror back.

Step 3: Together, celebrate any victories that occurred and then transition into defining any problems that exist, brainstorming potential solutions for consideration.

Step 4: Develop an action plan for the specified goal. Outline specifically what each partner will do toward resolution of the target problem. Make sure to assess movement toward the goal at the beginning of the next Pow-Wow.

Step 5: Share your appreciations for each other before you adjourn and then go do something fun that will further cement your bond as a couple.

No Agenda?

So what if you dont have anything to talk about at your meeting? While that is very rare, still go through the above steps. Its ok to have a short session and expect that all meetings will not be the same duration. Also, not every get-together will require problem-solving or action-planning. Heres a few additional creative ideas for getting the most out of your time together when you dont have any burning issues to discuss:

Discuss your visions for your future as a couple and as individuals.

Plan for fun. Talk about any vacations or recreational outings youd like to pursue in the near or long-range future.

Each of you grab a deck of index cards and write some sentence completion stems on them. Read them aloud to each other and answer them. For example, One thing I really appreciate about you is _____; Something I need for you to understand about me is _____; If there was one thing Id like to be different about our relationship, it would be _____. Get creative and have fun!

Go to your local gift or gaming specialty store and purchase one of those board games geared toward couples, intimacy, and relationships. Play the game together!


No matter how busy or chaotic your life gets, never lose sight of how important your relationship is to you. The Relationship Pow-Wow can be one way to keep centered and focused on keeping your relationship primed and to keep the channels of communication open. Remember that the meetings need to also highlight the positives you share and also make sure that they dont replace or substitute other quality time the two of you could be sharing. Have a regular Date Night as part of your routine to keep the spark alive. And most importantly, keep the communication going in-between sessions also. Be flexible with your meetings as things will happen and always be mindful of keeping your relationship as the number one priority, no matter how crazy life gets. Youre there for each other!

2007 Brian L. Rzepczynski

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Do You Love Teddy Bears?

Like most little kids I too had a teddy bear or two when I was the little kid age. Over the time I have, however, become less and less qualified for this age category and, as a result, have become quite teddybearless. Nevertheless, I would swear that I always thought that teddy bears were loveable. Well, apparently I was wrong, but I did not realize that until this evening.

This evening I went to Big Lots to buy some stuff that I usually use to support my living functions, also known as food. In line, just in front of me was a cart piled with teddy bears, really huge ones... I thought they were abandoned by some kids who in turn were lost by their parents. But no... they were waiting in line too. Along with some lady who was not the teddy bear age at all. In fact, she was clearly older then me and looked quite grotesque with these giant teddies... It suddenly occurred to me that this line was going to be long. And it was...

My right foot started to hurt me again and the stuff to support my living functions was feeling more and more like a ballast as I had to carry it in my hands and not in a basket. Baskets were out, teddy bears were in and the cashier had to check the price. For the teddies, of course. How do you pack a giant teddy bear? Using two bags because, obviously, the bags to pack giant teddy bears have yet to be be invented.

Finally, the teddies were out of my sight. The teddy bear lady handed her credit card to the cashier while smiling to me apologetically. "No problem," I said, "I hated teddy bears long before." I lied, but I do hate them now! This world would be a much better place without teddy bears!

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